On a daily basis I visit The Passionist site for the daily bible reading interpretation. Time and time again I’ve accessed this site, but never noticed the “Conduct Policy” at the footer.
It reads, “Holy Cross Province was found to be in compliance with the highest current national standards for protecting children, earning high honors in abuse prevention policies, practices and response”.
It got me wondering, what if we each were required to have a conduct policy. What might that look like? What if we took the time to evaluate ourselves and wrote this down.
Would we see ourselves falling short? What might this tell us about ourselves? What are we in compliance with?
Many of us have resumes that are required for employment opportunities, but what if we had one to help use as a guide to better ourselves and our responses.
What are your standards and where do they come from? Are you allowing yourself to fly by the seat of your pants or do you ask for guidance to help show you a better way to live.
Everything we say and do matters. I’ve repeatedly said this to friends in attempts to either get through a difficult time or just to give feedback to those trying to get past things. Our conduct is how the world see us. God also sees and hears us as well.
To the point, around September I was at the east coast under a shelter and I overheard a group of boys talking about surfing. They were pretty engaged and one boy in particular continued to throw the f-bomb out. I could tell they seemed like good kids as I listened and I wondered how they react if I talked to them about it. Looking around there were a few older couples and I thought, I’m sure they don’t want to hear this, so I mustered up the courage to walk by them and said hello. I asked if they would consider not using that kind of language and told them they seem like good kids, but there were other people around and it might not be the best place for them to speak in such a manner.
Shockingly the boy actually apologized and said “I’m sorry ma’am”. I smiled and told him to have a nice day and continued to walk down to the beach. What they didn’t know was that my sister was sitting nearby and later told me that when I walked away he looked at his friends and said “I knew that was coming”. I asked if there was any more conversation after that and she said no.
I’m glad I was able to talk to them and I hope in someway I may have prompted that boy to think again before he spoke in such a manner. Maybe his conduct may change down the road as a result or his friends.
To be quite honest, I’m continuing to hear this more and more in public and social places. What’s with these people are using bad language. Is this behavior becoming accepted?
It takes one step at a time and we can all learn a lesson and help aid ourselves and others in better practices and responses.